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Thursday, July 7, 2016

Men Are from Crazy, Women Are from Insane

Human Brain Analysis - Man vs. Woman......Complementary nature! - Kalvi Kalanjiam - Kalvi Kalanjiam

Yesterday I was discussing (with my sister, of course) the differences between the way men and women think. Science tells of linear brains versus circular brains. Men (and of course not ALL men) tend to think in a straight line, which gets them to a decision fairly quickly, even if it's not the best one. Women (and of course not ALL women) tend to think in circles, which makes the decision process more difficult.

My example in the conversation with my sister was eating out. My husband always asks where I'd like to eat when we're out for the day. I always offer two or three choices that I think are good ones. He finds that annoying: "Just tell me where you want to eat," he'll say. However, I know that secretly he's already decided where HE wants to eat. He's being polite by asking me to decide. I'm being polite by trying to share the decision. Finding a place to eat shouldn't be so hard.

Anyone else have this going on in their lives?


  1. I suspect my husband I are the exceptions. If I ask him what he'd like for dinner, his stock answer is, "I don't know." If I am going grocery shopping, I always ask if there's anything he would like me to buy for him. Same answer. I thought maybe it was because he didn't have food cravings like I do, but I've come to the conclusion, he just can't make a decision. It's not just food. As he (and I) age, he gets more and more indecisive and I get more and more frustrated. He can't decide what to keep and what to throw away, so he buys one of everything and never disposes of anything. If I want to clean up a closet, I have to sneak my culls out in a black plastic garbage bag or he'd have to sort through things to see if I was getting rid of any "good stuff". He's a hoarder in a clean and semi-organized way, not one of those you see on TV with dirty pizza boxes in the bathtub. That does not make it easier to live with him and his stuff. We have run out of places to store his "finds". Our house has become one big repository of "good stuff".

    I, on the other side, say what I'm thinking. That's not always a good thing. I make decisions; in many cases, they turn out badly, but I stick with them. If we go out to eat, I pick the restaurant and try to rotate my choices so the wait staff doesn't take a notion to poison my husband. Some poor waitresses have been known to come back three and four times waiting for him to decide what he wants to order. The smart ones see him coming and don't even bother to bring him a menu. They just tell him what he will be receiving for dinner and set his plate in front of him. Both he and I love them for it.

    Circular versus linear thinking, both have their place, I suppose. I'm not sure either is better, but they (and we) seem to complement each others' patterns. We celebrate our 33rd Anniversary Saturday.

    Enough bitching. I'm going back to reading your latest book and loving every page.

  2. Too funny that you have to sneak stuff to the garbage! I have a friend whose husband keeps building more storage barns for his "stuff". She doesn't find it so amusing.
    I agree both types of thinking are useful, and according to research, the sex-related differences in brain function are pretty small.
    One thing I've noticed has switched as my husband and I approach our 47th anniversary is the hot/cold thing. I used to be the one who was always cold; now it's him saying, "Turn down that A/C!"